Depression

[dogboystoy]

I have noticed that in the past few months that I have not been myself. Since I can remember(for years) I would go into a lul around October for 2 weeks. Then it would pass and my happy life would go on. But, This year I went into my "lul" this october and it hasent left. Things that were important to me dont seem so important anymore. I withdraw in conversations with friends etc. I think I see the signs as depression. I have talked to a friend that is on Happy pills and he said that it has changed his life. So I am going to see a doctor next week on this to see what he thinks.

On top of it all, my wife is on happy pills (has been for 1.5 years), it has definitely made her better up to the past 6 months. Now she falls asleep very soundly when she gets a break from the kids, and somethimes sleeps through picking up the kids from school.. VERY BAD THING.. But I am under the impression that she may need her prescription changed. And since we are having marrital problems right now, the combination of her pills needing changing, me needing happy pills, i think that resolving our issues wont get better...

 

Any thoughts?

[wesw]

personnally i think doctor just cram drug down our throats and make you kinda high. some people need plenty of drug though. those bi polar people and most women should be loaded up.

 

 

do youthink it might be the weather turning colder and it just blah. trees dying, etc

 

sun isnt out as much.

 

dont know what to tell you about the marriage deal, maybe you need a break where you and your wife can get away and enjoy each other.

[dawarriorman]

personnally i think doctor just cram drug down our throats and make you kinda high.  some people need plenty of drug though.  those bi polar people and most women should be loaded up.

do youthink it might be the weather turning colder and it just blah. trees dying, etc

 

sun isnt out as much.

 

dont know what to tell you about the marriage deal, maybe you need a break where you and your wife can get away and enjoy each other.

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Thats my opinion too. Sure those pills might do something, but all in all, I think its a load of crap that was made up to make more money. If you need a pill to make you feel better, its the same thing as any other drug (coke, pot, alcohol, whatever). Just this one is legal, and prescribed by the doctor, so it must be okay for you. Take yourself a vacation, go riding for a weekend.

[iceman]

i dont think pills are a good idea. if you are going to commit suicide then go get some. if youre just feeling down try hard to find something you love. something that makes you really happy. theres gotta be something. i know how you feel though. its just being detached. you gotta find something that can reattach you.

[rocketboy]

i think it jus tdepends on the person and situation , they(stress pills) can be good things ..and bad also . sounds liek you guys should seek a marriage counselor though ,this doesnt sound like seasonal depression ,you and your wife need a good soild relationship ,all the pills in the world cant do that ,only you 2 can

[98bonerSTOCKshee]

go ride.. go ride somemore, then somemore...

 

if it don't help...

this will

 

[odaen]

marital problems can lead to depression. i think pills have thier place with people who actually have chemical imbalances that can't be controlled any other way, but most people use them to treat symptoms instead of fixing the root of the problem.

your wfe sounds like a stay at home mom, if she's sleeping and picking up the kids. you gotta get her out of the house and doing something constructive with her life. staying at home all of the time, getting fed maury and oprah every damn day would make anybody depressed to the point they just wanna sleep and be medicated.

 

so, I'd start focusing on your wife and get her doing something that will give her more confidence, a part-time job, or possibly some education.

 

hope things get better, man. I've been there.

[Cotton eyed Joe]

Like the others have said.

 

Most doctors just hand shit out like candy with very little testing other than "feeling any better".

 

The difference between being in a pissy mood due to your environment and having an imbalance somewhere is a big deal where some sort of measurement or observation needs to be made.

 

My wife went to a doctor for some kind of skin problem. By the time she left the doctor had given her 3 different perscriptions for happy meds. WTF? Apparently it was his brilliant guesswork in his little white coat that determined she had some sort of anxiety causing her acne. Well DUH!! She's a fucking accountant and she's married to me. I'm surprised she hasn't tossed her self in front of a bus.

All she wanted was something to make the acne go away, not put her in a fucking haze.

 

Im not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV or in the bedroom (other than amature gynocologist) but I'd lay off the happy pills, perhaps check out a psychologist/marriage counselor, and go get a physical. Specifically have them check your testosterone levels.

 

The main point is to determine if its environment, or biological.

 

I know most of my mood comes from my surroundings. Stick me out in the sand for 3 days with some friends and I could give a fuck less about anything else. Put me back in the shop and after10 hours, I'm to the point where I could strangle the next person that walks through the door. Thats why 2 hours at the gym every night after work is a must for me. If I just sat here I'd go nuts thinking about the days events.

[DemonShee]

i think it jus tdepends on the person and situation , they(stress pills) can be good things ..and bad  also . sounds liek you guys should seek a marriage counselor though ,this doesnt sound like seasonal depression ,you and your wife need a good soild relationship ,all the pills in the world cant do that ,only you 2 can

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I agree with this real and mature response. The pills cant cover your whow's from marital problems. It does sound like that you have had depression tendencies before though and YES depression can ruin marrieges and even lives. This is no laughing matter.

 

I was on "happy pills" for a little over a year as i was going through hell in my life and it all took me down HARD. But then when things started to get better, the pills didnt seem to work the right way. I soon felt as if I had no emotions, I was just there. Couldnt feel really happy either, just flat across the board. I got off of em the right way and havent used them since and feel very good.

 

I will say without a doubt the pills saved me. I was under so much stress that I would go into axiety attacks and would feel like I was in shock or even having a heart attack. Scary as hell. If I would have kept that up, I dont know what would of happend to me.

 

I suggest working together with your wife on your problems with some good counceling. It isnt going to hurt to talk to your doctor and get you something to help your nerves and emotions. By being in control it will help with you fixing your marriege and yes your wife needs to do the same, her pills are not working right and before she goes switching I recommend getting a second opinion form a specialist. Some doctors will just throw drugs at you hoping for the best.

 

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As for the smart guys on here, sometimes people need these drugs for more reasons than just being depressed. Someone that has experienced severe head trauma will most likely never be the same. This is the case with my Dad. I would give anything to have my Dad that I had five years ago before his car crash. He really struggles in life now as he has severe depression from brain trauma. It's no laughing matter.

 

I do agree though, too many people are on them for no reason.

[Bigairee]

I have found that about 8 hours of fisihing every saturday makes me feel like a new man. Find something that you really enjoy. My wife even likes my fishing. No more drinking on Fri. night. I go to bed early, get up early, come home in a good mood, and then am to tired to drink on saturday night. But she is gone right now and I am drinking a little beam and coke and watching the race.

[NYUK]

a day like today riding all day makes me feel like a new man ,just like fishing,people do need meds,if you haven`t been depressed or lived with someone who needs meds then you don t know. a second opinion from a different doctor could help too,most doctors have stock in pharmacutical companies thats why they push so many meds.depression is real,i have bouts with it in winter months, i have also found depression can t hit a moving target,if i stay busy all winter long i have no time to think about shitty weather and being stuck indoors.i take no meds.my wife thinks i should.

[Robert]

IMO, Taking perscription pills is like painting a rotted fence, It may look good from the outside, but its still rotten on the inside. My only advise is confront everything thats bringing you down. Solve each problem and go on with your life. Everyone feels depressed every now and again, its how we deal with it that makes a difference.

[8buck]

DON'T DO IT!!! YOU WILL FEEL 10x WORSE, 100x WORSE if and when you try to stop taking them. Been there, done that!

 

Read up on how "Extacy" works, and how most people feel when they come down off it , this happy pill bullshit does the same thing, just a little less potent.

 

Just deal with it for the time being, think of something to look forward to and find something interesting to keep ya busy, IT WILL PASS!

 

!!!->IMO<-!!!

[Brooke]

like nyuk said, some people do need meds and if you havent lived with or needed them than you just dont know. they are way over perscribed nowadays though, in my opinion. i think a good general rule of thumb is, if you can pinpoint why youre feeling down, then you probably dont need meds.

 

clinical depression is very irrational, feeling down for no real reason for long periods of time or all the time. my family has a long history with major clinical depression and even some anxiety and paranoia. most of us arent on meds cause, well, we dont think we need em, like that old adage, if you think youre crazy you probably arent cause the crazy dont know enough to know it. haha. but i can sit in a room with certain members of my family/extended family and just see it, in their affect and the way they speak etc. and some would say the same about me. i remember once when my great grandma (the only one of us on meds) decided she didnt need her meds anymore, i walked into her living room and she was literally sitting in her chair with her head down, staring into her lap.

 

anyways, get your wife's perscription changed or ask the doc about weening her off em, cause she shouldnt be passing out like that, or she may be abusing them, taking too many. get your problems in your marriage fixed, keep yourself busy, i doubt you need meds.

[race-a-holic]

If it is depression you're in,I've been in your shoes.First,people that might tell you just get over it don't have any idea what they are talking about.To be a little depressed every once in a while for short periods of time is normal,to go into deep depression is a whole different matter.I went through about a year of deep depression.It was awful.Get help now before you get worse if you think that's where you're headed.Medicine might be necessary to help you through while you're getting help.Find a good reputiable counselour.There's some that can make you worse than you are,but there is some very good ones though.Ask around.Thought of suicide?Get help as fast as you can.If you ever need to,just PM me.I'll give you my phone number,e-mail address,however I can help just let me know.