tats4life Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 WHAT THE f*ck IS WRONG WITH ME. EVERYTHING WAS COOL TILL ABOUT 6 MONTHS AGO. MY WIFE AND I HAD THE WHOLE "LETS HAVE KIDS" TALK. NOW TWO DAYS AGO, SHE COMES HOME AND SAYS. "I'VE FILED FOR DIVORCE, I'M GOING TO STAY WITH MY MOM . I UNDERSTAND SHE HATES THE TATTOO'S AND 99.9% OF MY FRIENDS BECAUSE WE GOT TATTOO'S RIDE OUR QUADS ON THE EDGE AND RIDE ARE STREET BIKES ON THE BACK TIRE MORE THAN ANYTHING. WHAT THE f*ck, AM I THAT MUCH OF A WALKING f*ck UP THAT MY WIFE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH ME. I GOT A JOB I ABSOLUTLY LOVE , I GET TO RIDE ANY DAMN THING I WANT. I'VE NEVER BEEN THIS LOST OR FUSTRATED IN MY ENTIRE LIFE. THIS WAS PROBABLY THE WORST BIRTHDAY I'VE EVER HAD. HELL WE JUST HAD OUR 3 YEAR ANNIVERSY ON THE 12TH. I'M GONNA RIDE MY SHEE ONE MORE TIME ON THE 29TH OF THIS MONTH AT CAMP KEMO (sp). A BUNCH OF PEOPLE TAKE THERE MOTORCYCLE AND TAKE KIDS FOR A RIDE. I'M GONNA SHOW MY ASS AND TRASH SOME TIRES. AFTER THAT IT'S GONNA SIT IN MY GARAGE AND RIOT FOR ALL I GIVE A SHIT. SORRY FOR ALL THE FUCKIN BITCHIN I KINDA FEEL BETTER, BUT OH WELL. CAN SOMEBODY TILL ME WERE I SAW A (QUAD SHIRT I THINK) OF CALVIN PISSING ON EX-WIFE. TIME TO GO TO THE BAR AND DRINK MY ANGER AWAY BEFORE I KILL SOMEONE. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cotton eyed Joe Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 First thing: Believe it or not, it has nothing to do with you. Obviously she thinks she wants to do something else. You are who you are, and you are to be taken as you are. You also have to accept others for who they are. If someone can't do that or accept you, that is their problem to have, not yours to correct. I've been through this very thing, and I'll tell you it isn't easy to change the way you think, but I guarantee the second you do, your whole life will turn around. As soon as I stopped thinking that some "people treated me like shit because I deserved it or that I just wasn't good enough for them and this is why this is happening", and changed it to "I deserve better and I'm good enough for me, why do I hang around this type of person or allow this to happen to me" it was all different. I stopped "letting" things happen, and started "making" things happen---the way I wanted them to happen. Keep your head up, out of a bottle, and think about shit for a while. It can be overwhelming I know......But what has happened has happened. No amount of breaking shit or drinking will help in the end, its just a temporary "fix". I've replaced my fair share of shit that I broke because of a drunken rage. It feels SO right.....but in the end it only made me more pissed off because I spent that weekend fixing shit, and remembering why I did what I did because my fucken hands we cut up and bruised to the point it hurt to use them. Sorry to hear about this, hope things can look positive for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
banshee370 Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 WHAT THE f*ck IS WRONG WITH ME. EVERYTHING WAS COOL TILL ABOUT 6 MONTHS AGO. MY WIFE AND I HAD THE WHOLE "LETS HAVE KIDS" TALK. NOW TWO DAYS AGO, SHE COMES HOME AND SAYS. "I'VE FILED FOR DIVORCE, I'M GOING TO STAY WITH MY MOM . I UNDERSTAND SHE HATES THE TATTOO'S AND 99.9% OF MY FRIENDS BECAUSE WE GOT TATTOO'S RIDE OUR QUADS ON THE EDGE AND RIDE ARE STREET BIKES ON THE BACK TIRE MORE THAN ANYTHING. WHAT THE f*ck, AM I THAT MUCH OF A WALKING f*ck UP THAT MY WIFE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH ME. I GOT A JOB I ABSOLUTLY LOVE , I GET TO RIDE ANY DAMN THING I WANT. I'VE NEVER BEEN THIS LOST OR FUSTRATED IN MY ENTIRE LIFE. THIS WAS PROBABLY THE WORST BIRTHDAY I'VE EVER HAD. HELL WE JUST HAD OUR 3 YEAR ANNIVERSY ON THE 12TH. I'M GONNA RIDE MY SHEE ONE MORE TIME ON THE 29TH OF THIS MONTH AT CAMP KEMO (sp). A BUNCH OF PEOPLE TAKE THERE MOTORCYCLE AND TAKE KIDS FOR A RIDE. I'M GONNA SHOW MY ASS AND TRASH SOME TIRES. AFTER THAT IT'S GONNA SIT IN MY GARAGE AND RIOT FOR ALL I GIVE A SHIT. SORRY FOR ALL THE FUCKIN BITCHIN I KINDA FEEL BETTER, BUT OH WELL. CAN SOMEBODY TILL ME WERE I SAW A (QUAD SHIRT I THINK) OF CALVIN PISSING ON EX-WIFE. TIME TO GO TO THE BAR AND DRINK MY ANGER AWAY BEFORE I KILL SOMEONE. Tats: First off I'm sorry to hear what happened. Hopefully you and her can work things out. Now I dont want to come off the wrong way but have you ever thought about the fact that she may worry about you? My wife told me that I'm never allowed to own a street bike. I've accepted it since I realize that she wants me around (for my $) and for the kids to have a father. Did you have the tats before you got married? How about your bikes? Does she now have a problem with them? I know plenty of people that come home to a woman that isnt the woman they married. I've come to the conclusion that they are all insane. Just to different degrees of sanity. Now we all change so its not 100% their fault, so something had to flip her switch. With all of my friends that have gone through what you have/are... 95% of them had a 3rd person involved. Now I'm not saying that she has been/is cheating, but may have had someone influencing her. Someone doesnt up and make a decision like this over night, especially when she was talking kids. As for the shirt you mentioned...... Shawn from K&K had those printed up after his divorce. Come out to Southwick next weekend and I will have one your size waiting for ya. I hope things work out for ya, and if you need someone to talk to let me know.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maverick302 Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 girls will do that, it can be a bitch sometimes, but it'll work itself for the best. As for the shee, if u feel that way send it my way. anyway good luck on that and i hope it works out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XTShee Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 (edited) I've come to the conclusion that they are all insane. Just to different degrees of sanity. God damn thats the trurth Tats I wouldnt go changing for anyone, if you like to ride bikes, ride em. She knew that when she met you so why change now. I remember one of your close mates died not long ago on his bike, may be thats got her spooked or something. If she cant except you for who your are then its her loss not yours. Sounds like you need a good holiday, come over to NZ we can go ridin, drink some piss and go kill some stuff, good times, good times Edited July 21, 2004 by XTShee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Duece Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 (edited) this is not a case of her leaving him cause she cant deal with the danger of him riding a quad, its simple she has another guy in the works, girls do that shit when they get bored with the guy or the relationship becomes work and doesnt go there way, thats a younger girl..........women dont because as they get older their worth drops, and they are not as valuable to men as when they were younger so they "settle" for less, women under thirty who look half way decent have soooooo many options, they cant get gas in ther cars without being hit on......if i worked for someone and EVERY where i went i was offered employment...... when my boss told me to do ANYTHING id tell him to fuckhimself, cause allways in the back of my mind i know i can find work anywhere......chics got it made cause guys get all gitty for pussie.....i know women who actually think there pussie is a fuckin gold mine, and if you treat them decent they think your a pussie, then leave you........pussie is a catch 22 Edited July 21, 2004 by Blue Duece Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ledofthezep Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 Sorry to hear tats. That's one of my worst fears..I've been with my girl for damn near 4 years now; still not married though. The word freaks me out cause I don't want to have to change...I know I do a lot of stupid shit, and right now she puts up with it, but you never know how long that will last. I think that females in general all have another side to them, whether they admit it or not. There's the side that you see, and there's a side you hope you never have to encounter...her telling you to piss off out of the blue--I mean where does that shit come from?...no excuses, just a f*ck you & goodbye. It doesn't make sense that all of the fuckin sudden they have all these concerns & shit to say, when the day before everything was just peachy. Communication is necessary in a relationship, but I guess it only goes soo far. Hang in there man, don't be hard on yourself; remember...it's not your fault this shit's being dropped like a bomb on ya. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nasty01banshee Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 don't blame yourself too much... if she up and split on ya it's more than likely that she's not happy with herself and it's much easier to blame it on you instead of accepting her own faults and shortcomings... like any other typical woman..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenr74 Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 Man sorry to hear about the bad news. I went through the same thing a couple years ago so here is some advice. Take all your shit at "sell" it to a friend. Bikes, quads, whatever is valuable. It doesn't have to leave your possesion but get it out of your name. I was a fucking moron when I got divorced and walked away with nothing but the bills for her student loans. Second thing is don't even think about being nice about it. She will try to screw you over at every possible chance. I learned the hard way that when it comes down to it, you are in a fucking war until the final papers are signed. Then you can worry about being nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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tats4life Posted July 21, 2004 Author Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 fella's thanks............dirtrider go f*ck yourself you punk mother fucker. it's nothing to do with what i fucked up. she wants a mr. i wear a suit to work everyday and make millions kind of guy. Everything was great in our relationship till she got her upedy up job at merrill lynch. I'm white trash and will always be. everything that is mine is mine....everything that is hers is hers. we have seperate bank accounts. and she can have the damn house i hate living in the city. hell i just wanna move to cali or the mid west. i'm taking it as an eye opener. i'm going back to my passions.............racing (maybe), and tattooing. Walter, don't think I'm gonna make southwick, were slammed at the shop. I'm elbows and asshole deep in jet ski motors, including my own. and it's not another guy...........it's mainly becasue she doesn't want kids and i want as many as i can grind out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
banshee370 Posted July 22, 2004 Report Share Posted July 22, 2004 Dirtrider: Let me be the first to say this....... Since Lee hasnt done anthing about it. YOUR NOT WELCOME HERE Get the f*ck out! No one wants you here and I'm sure I speak for 90% of the people here when I say. Please leave! Tats: Get me ur addy and I'll send a shirt out on Fri when I'm up at K&K Wear it the next time ya see her.... One thing I've learned while on this earth is that there are always 3 sides to every story. Your side, their side and the truth. Everyone perceives things there own way and when feelings/emotions get involved things get a lil cloudy. If you see my origional post, I will rarely point fingers and take sides when it come to relationships. Dirtrider should take notes.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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