you need to drop her like a bad habit. trust is gone forever, thats the bottom line. trust is the basis for any real relationship, if you dont have that, youve got squat. its not worth the heartache and worrying youd always be doing if you stayed with her. yes, people do stupid things, and make mistakes, but people dont do that shit to people they love. if she cheats on you once, she'll cheat on you again. and the fact that she uses alcohol as an excuse should piss you off even more. she wont even take full responsibility for her actions. fuck her. i remember when i was younger, i was dating this complete asshole, he was mean to me, if he wasnt being mean to me he was ignoring me or hanging out with other chicks. one night, he ditched me at a party, and long story short, i kissed another guy.....i felt so bad right after it happened that i literally vomited. i broke it off with the asshole boyfriend the next day, i felt so horrible for what had happened. and that was an ASSHOLE, someone who if you knew the shit he did, youd agree if anyone deservs to be cheated on, he did. but i STILL couldnt handle knowing i had kissed someone else. i can see absolutely NO situation where id cheat on someone i love and care about and who cares about me, and if i did, theres no way i could keep it from them and stay with them. id be too guilt ridden. you just dont do that shit to ANYONE, especially someone you care about. theres pleanty of good girls out there, move on.