Boy aint that the truth. I had +2's with the rims flipped. That was a little rough in the woods. I put the rims back to stock.
I use ricky stator a-arms. For $500 you can't beat them. They have REAL ball joints to. Not the Faddish heim joints. I just don't like heim joints like most people do. They seem to have to many problems.
As far as shocks, the individual that sets them up will make all the difference in the world. Valving, spring size, oil weight, it all makes a difference.
It boils down to how much your budget it.
Lonestar does make a good axle.