There's no need to act that way! He is right, and was trying to give you some helpful advice. You didn't need a tool or strap wrench to hold the flywheel either, just two wrenches on the puller. Or if you have access, an impact. Yes your stator is now junk and is the reason you have no spark. Anytime you put something through the holes in your flywheel you're taking the chance of messing your stator up.